I breath and calm down and answer:
"You cannot speak about that specific topic. Why? Well because you have never been a minority, you have never been a second class citizen, you have all your rights without asking for them, you have never been bullied in school or discriminated just because of being who you are, you have never been afraid that your family will realise who you really are and judge you and hate you because of that, you have never being afraid of telling them (your family) the truth about yourself and being kicked out of your home for being sincere, you have never been told that you are an abomination and that you will burn in hell by the lovely religions that we have, you have never been told that God hates you...... you won't understand and to be honest is better not to talk about this since I can see we have a kind of disagreement about this topic right now."
Society evolves, but so far I have seen this only in history classes but I never thought I would be part of history, I never thought my life and my decisions will bother someone else, that my rights will be in someone else hands, that I would be judged by people and not by God (if you believe in one)
All of the lesbians, gays, bisexuals, transgender, transexuals, asexuals that live in this earth have a pretty hard past (at least the majority of us) and way to learn to be happy even if the world is against you. For some of use the battle starts in our own family even when we don't know what's going on, but you understand soon that life is for winners not for losers. We are PROUD because we have overcome many SHITS that "NORMAL" people don't go thru.
Why are we proud of being a QUEER?
1. LIFE
Didn't committ suicide. Many of us went thru that awful stage where death is an option. I was suicidal for a long time, thinking about how to kill myself because I hate the way I was and I thought I was wrong, then one day I choose to live and forget all those negative thoughts and continue with my life and acomplish my goals. Nobody will live my life if I didn't start to see how bless I am just for being alive.
Didn't committ suicide. Many of us went thru that awful stage where death is an option. I was suicidal for a long time, thinking about how to kill myself because I hate the way I was and I thought I was wrong, then one day I choose to live and forget all those negative thoughts and continue with my life and acomplish my goals. Nobody will live my life if I didn't start to see how bless I am just for being alive.
2. TOLERANCE
Tolerance for those who teach love but hate is in their blood: Religion. I was born and raised in religion, I was told that the kingdom of God was closed to me just because of my nature, because when I was 7 years I was told that I decided to be and like what I do now, that I was wrong and that I needed to change, that I was a shame for God. Then I grew and I learned that I was not bad, sick or wrong and that I didn't want to feel miserable just for being me, so I told God: Hey God, I love you, but your followers are talking shit in your name, so I really don't like them but just to be clear I love you and that is what matters the most. The best response to hate is love and tolerance.
Tolerance for those who teach love but hate is in their blood: Religion. I was born and raised in religion, I was told that the kingdom of God was closed to me just because of my nature, because when I was 7 years I was told that I decided to be and like what I do now, that I was wrong and that I needed to change, that I was a shame for God. Then I grew and I learned that I was not bad, sick or wrong and that I didn't want to feel miserable just for being me, so I told God: Hey God, I love you, but your followers are talking shit in your name, so I really don't like them but just to be clear I love you and that is what matters the most. The best response to hate is love and tolerance.
3. LEARNED TO FORGIVE, BUT NOT TO FORGET
We all have been discriminated, hated, bullied, treated as shit by people. Words and attitudes hurts more than physical wounds, many times we learned to stay quiet and not speak just to keep "quiet". We learned to listen and to watch our family and friends, to love them even if they hate you. You might love someone a lot, but there is a limit and nobody has the power to treat you as a second class citizen. Some friends of you will love the way you are but won't support the rights that you deserve as a human being and that is something that definitely you will forgive but not forget.
4. WE LEARNED TO STAND UP AND STOP BEING A VICTIM
One day I got tired of being bullied, so I started my taekwondo classes. I know that violence is wrong, but everything has it's limits, it feels good to punch in the face to those stupids that hits you and offended you for a long time and then see how they respect you.
We all have been discriminated, hated, bullied, treated as shit by people. Words and attitudes hurts more than physical wounds, many times we learned to stay quiet and not speak just to keep "quiet". We learned to listen and to watch our family and friends, to love them even if they hate you. You might love someone a lot, but there is a limit and nobody has the power to treat you as a second class citizen. Some friends of you will love the way you are but won't support the rights that you deserve as a human being and that is something that definitely you will forgive but not forget.
4. WE LEARNED TO STAND UP AND STOP BEING A VICTIM
One day I got tired of being bullied, so I started my taekwondo classes. I know that violence is wrong, but everything has it's limits, it feels good to punch in the face to those stupids that hits you and offended you for a long time and then see how they respect you.
5. WALK TO AVOID, NOT TO RUN AWAY.
You just learn that some people are stupid! I just remember that one day someone asked me: "Were you raped? " Seriously? Then you learn that some people are just ignorants and they love it and they hate to learn and to open their mind. We learned that those persons feel really irritated when you just ignore them.
There are so many other reasons why we are and why we choose to be proud! But for the moment those are a few I can think were the most important for me at the beggining. Life is not fair sometimes, but we all learn that it always gets better. We learned that we are light, that we are good and that there is nothing wrong with us.
For you that you are reading, just think about it: What if one day your son or your daughter is gay? Believe me I don't wish your son or daughter born that way because it is hard indeed to be a "Queer" in this world, it is hard. If that is the case would you like to be part of the closed minded society who discriminates or part of the smart society who evolves and learns that tolerance is a life style and not judge by the cover.
For those in Russia, in the middle east in those societies where being who you are is condemned by the same ignorants who attempt to rule the world with their old ancient rules, let me tell you: IT GETS BETTER. Hold on and keep fighting, the world is watching, we all have to fight our own demons, we all have to fight our own battles in our own families, circles, societies and countries. Don't give up and remember that society wouldn't be the same without our shine, without our light.
For those who have fallen, either because you took your life away or because someone decided to take your life away from us, we are proud of you and we are proud to live for you. And for those who are struggling, please see the light and let me assure you.... it gets beautifully better!
"There is no light without dark, no happiness without grief, no improvement without error, and no true love without heartbreak. Take every bump in the road as a signal for something greater to come.
- Roy Peng"
